As you probably know, this 1999 crime has been the talk for the past month or so. I’m learning new facts weekly and these don’t change my opinion that Parker should be castrated. Though I’m a woman of color and a rape survivor, I’m also sensitive to other issues, such as mental health. According to Ebony magazine, Nate Parker is too (I’m sure his publicity team, for what it’s worth at this point, had some encouragement in this also).
Now, my understanding is that Parker and his victim had a casual sex relationship prior to the attack. This is not uncommon but does not take away from his violent actions, which included attempting to force a train, harassing his accuser, and downplaying the incident in earlier interviews. Even when addressed about her suicide in 2012, Parker waxed poetically and made it about his poor widdle feelings.
In short, who has sex with someone not in their right mind? Do you really enjoy sex with an inebriated person? I sure didn’t!
My 19/20 y.o. self did many things I’m not proud of today and smashing someone I wasn’t in a committed relationship with is in the Top 3. Not far behind was being in public places intoxicated, sometimes getting behind the wheel or letting someone I barely knew inside my vehicle. To top it off, I would be in a strange part of town where police brutality is strong and I have no real friends or relatives within immediate reach.
This scenario is worse than that of Parker’s accuser. I’m sure women have done much worse since but it doesn’t justify being attacked.
Yes, there is opportunity and a person can get away with it almost as easily as snatching their cash on-hand. However, no person should be worshiped, or better, there should be no debate about someone who commits any act of violence because they are an athlete, a possible force to be reckoned with on the screen, or they are considered handsome. (L.A.Times)
Traumatic events can really mess with someone’s head. One day a person can feel good but one attack or visual, can change things overnight. They are not themselves, as they view the world as a dark place. Parker’s accuser eventually got married and had a child but ending up dropping out of school, as a result of organizing a group of students to taunt her on campus. A cure does not come in a prescription bottle…in fact, it can make things worse.
Today I’m happy to tell part of my story and let women know to not give up their power when possible because the road to justice is a long one (my attacker was convicted because I was a minor at the time). In the meantime, Parker’s presence on some decent films was refreshing compared to the many faces of Kevin Hart, Tyler Perry Productions, or the juvenile vibe of the Wayans brothers. However, I don’t see him overcoming this one. I just hope one of his five daughters does not suffer too much.